By Levnow – Self-help tools for your personal development

WHY AREN'T YOU LIVING YOUR IDEAL LIFE? What is holding you back? Are you bugged down by debt, phobia’s, bad relationships, you will not face up to your past mistakes or are you in such a rut that you cannot even begin to see a starting point? Well, that is what I am giving you here, a starting point. If fear is what is holding you back, then it is time to face that fear.

The Three-Step Plan to Facing Your Fears

1. List the Large Obstacles Currently
Holding You Back

Write down the five big things that
are seriously stopping you from
changing your life now. First, I
truly hope you do not have five but
if you do have five or more, you
simply have a bigger plot of land
to clear. When I say “big things”,
I am not talking about
procrastination because
procrastination is simply a dealing
mechanism. It is simply a tool you
use so you don’t have to face your
fear. I am not talking about things
like clearing clutter either; we
are digging deeper than that,
because all these things
are “effects” we are looking for
the “cause”. So, I am talking about
a pending lawsuit, crippling debt,
bad credit, bad relationships,
illness: the big things. I realize
that what might be big for you
might not be for others but a fear
is a fear.

2. Review Each Item on the List
Look at each item and take time out
to think, “What is the worst that
can happen?” Please do not write
this part down. Just think it in
your head for a quick minute (if
you want to know why, check out Law
of Attraction), the last thing you
need is to have the “Universe”
catch on to that little ditty. Here
is the big, big thing you need to
understand; the worst thing that
can happen is the thing you are
going to have to deal with now.
Brace yourself, more often than
not, it is not always that bad.

3. So, You Know What the Worst That
Can Happen Is, Now What?
You now need to figure out what you
will do or what can happen to you
in the worst-case scenario. Do you
need to file bankruptcy, do you
need to pull up your bootstraps and
take the next two years to keep on
top of your payments and fix your
bad credit, do you need to start
planning to leave that relationship
safely, or do you need to face the
judge. When you look at things this
way, it does not seem as bad. Why?
Because, these are all things you
can put actionable steps to and
take control of the issue. People
survive bankruptcy, look at Donald
Trump or even closer to home your
neighbor down the road…

The point I am trying to make here is that facing your fear a lot of time is fear of the outcome, but if you come up with a solution to face the outcome then you have conquered your fear.
The worst-case scenario happening is rare. However, the rewards you gain from facing your fear far outweigh living in fear. What is worst is that you may end up realizing that your life may have been completely different if you had taken care of the problem a long time ago.
I do not mean to simplify your problems or the things you are afraid of, but you must master that fear because the only person it is keeping down, is you.